This has been an often challenging and difficult 12 months; full of change for all of us. I've had to embrace working online or by phone and what I’ve found is that the central flavour of the work continues. My patients speak to me and I listen, observe, ask questions and interpret. Some people even prefer it to face to face and the geographical limitations are removed - as long as you speak English and can get online or have a phone we can work together.
Sometimes it is difficult to make sense of our lives; we may not like or understand how we behave or react, but feel unable to change. Sometimes a part of us may feel overwhelmed by life events, feel anxious or depressed, or struggle with difficult relationships
Deciding to meet with a therapist can be an important step in helping you to make changes and move forward in life. A therapist will provide a reflective space, where you can speak your mind and explore your difficulties.
I believe this alliance can help you clarify and understand the patterns that have developed in your life and explore how past experiences may still be affecting you and the way you relate to others. Going through this process can help you have more confidence and choice in the way you live.
My relationship work has the same principles in mind, but is particularly useful in exploring how people relate to each other and how what each has brought with them into the relationship, impacts upon it.
Generally, the people I see come to therapy in order to address emotional, personal or relationship problems.
- Lack of confidence
- Difficulties in sustaining relationships
- Bereavement & other losses
- Physical illness
- Difficulty in expressing feelings
- Issues relating to abuse or unhappiness in childhood
- Stress at work
- Spousal Abuse
They might also come because they wish to work on one or other of these symptoms:
- Obsessive and or Compulsive Behaviour
- Depression, Anxiety or Panic Attacks
- Psychosexual Problems
- Substance Abuse (including Food, Alcohol, Pornography, Drugs)
- Suicide and Self-Harming
I usually offer open-ended long-term therapy, which may continue for at least several months — often longer, especially if difficulties are deep-seated. Together we can reflect on how you respond to life events and explore the way you relate to yourself and others. I won’t tell you what to do or give advice but will help you make your own choices.
We would start with an assessment, where we can both get a feel for each other and get a sense of whether we wish to work together. Following this, once or twice weekly sessions last for 50 minutes. I charge £85 a session but offer some reduced-fee places. My working modality and supervision are in the school of British Object Relations, my training was accredited by the BPC (British Psychoanalytic Council) and I am a registered member of the BACP.